Giving Positive Attention

It went well. We do not have too much trouble showing affection.

Tactical Ignoring

He hasn't ha so much annoying ignorable behaviours lately. He did have a couple of bursts of frustration / anger that could not be ignored but did not last very long.

Giving Positive Attention

This is on-going. I think we do praise a lot but we also expect a lot. I have to consciously give more praise rather than automatically say 'well done' for what seems like most things he does - putting on his coat, eating his meal. We have reward charts which have really helped recently - he was ready for them. So, we have amply opportunity to give positive attention via the charts.

Tactical Ignoring

This is on-going. When I don't get sucked in to the annoying behaviour and emotions its is great and I feel more in control. However, unfortunately I have to be rested and in a good place to ignore it all. Generally things are better when I ignore the bad stuff.

Giving Positive Attention

We have started to spend more time playing together, with less distractions, which she has relished and wants more of. We praise her on a regular basis and so her behaviour hasn't changed here really

Tectical Ignoring

We haven't been able to determine which behaviour is mild enough to ignore as sometimes it can be pretty bad

Giving Positive Attention

Well

Tactical Ignoring

This technique combined with distraction to snap both of us out of the 'spiral' worked well

Giving Positive Attention

really positive. we went to a science centre, we played football, we played with toy soldier together and made slime. We played football in the park together multiple times, we read together and listened to audio books together. We played with among us toys and had an afternoon playing with lego. Since I have been back in work and we have been at home again it has been more difficult as there is less time. My partner (who I am separating from) has not as yet made the time to discuss the homework and approaches with me, so it is has proven difficult to make it a daily habit. However, I am keeping requesting her time to chat, so hopefully she will prioritise for the good of the kids at some point soon

Tactical Ignoring

Early days. But ignoring repeated hitting on legs whilst hugging his sibling before bed hasnt resulted in an escalation of bad behaviour and has resulted in him going to sleep rapidly after a hug

Giving Positive Attention

When I am calmer and give him individual attention he is calmer and listens more. He laughs more