Allowing her to make mistakes when trying new things, and model behaviour about how to cope with things going wrong. Talking about my own feelings to help her learn how to deal with big emotions. Praising her for persistence.

Ask hem to think about a problem they cannot do a different way

Strength his will to not give up and keep trying. Take responsibility for his actions.

More praise and identity if emotions. Being less solution focussed.

Framing the problem and challenging them to come up with a solution rather than solving it forget or suggesting solutions